The
travels of my vagabond youth took me to many interesting, famous, and exotic
places, but never to South America. The
closest I came to this continent was the Panama Canal aboard the Mercury and the Comet. Also, I missed going
to South America when I joined the General
Hoyt S. Vandenberg. She had shed a
third mate in Recife, Brazil, and sailed short-staffed. I caught up with the ship when she arrived at
Ascension Island in the South Atlantic several days later. And so it was with some sense of adventure
and with the excitement of departing for a new destination that I boarded a Tam
Airlines 767 at Kennedy Airport in New York on Monday, February 1, 2016. This airship conveyed me overnight some 4,500
miles southeast to São Paulo, Brazil. A
subsequent domestic flight aboard a Tam A-321 then carried me 900 miles
northeast to Salvador. Finally, an
automobile brought me about 100 kilometers to Alagoinhas.
An
inland, medium size, working class municipality with a distinctly Brazilian
atmosphere, Alagoinhas would never be mistaken for one of the great cities of
the world. Not a crossroads of history,
nor a seat of great political power, nor a cultural center with major
universities and learned societies, Alagoinhas nonetheless now stands out as
one of the most important places on the Earth.
For it was in Alagoinhas that Baby Lydia Elizabeth was born on
Wednesday, January 13, 2016. The future
of our family had arrived, and I traveled there to meet her.
Miss
Patty had gone ahead of me. She had
arrived in Alagoinhas on January 14. She
now met me at the airport in Salvador, accompanied by our son-in-law Renato Araújo
and his father Adilson. They brought us
initially to a churrascaria, a
buffet-style restaurant where I had my first experience of Brazilian
hospitality and Brazilian cuisine. Both
were most impressive; I was welcomed as an honored guest. Then, with Adilson driving, the four of us
proceeded north from Salvador to Alagoinhas, and on arrival there we stopped in
front of Miss Karen’s and Renato’s house on Rua H. Our girl was hanging laundry to dry on her
spacious front porch when we arrived.
Baby Lydia was sleeping peacefully indoors.
Rua
H brought back memories for me. A quiet,
narrow, and hilly street in the old world style, it was lightly traveled by
pedestrians, motor scooters, horse-drawn carriages, and automobiles. In the background, the neighbors’ roosters
crowed periodically. Rua H resembled the
myriad residential streets and alleys of southern Europe and the West Indies. The house fit this picture perfectly. Architecturally a blend of the Spanish
Caribbean and the Italian Mediterranean, it sported a beautiful front porch
with grated wall apertures, three steps leading up from the street, and three
further steps leading up to the front entryway.
Large, light brown tiles graced the floor, red Mediterranean tiles
supported by a wooden grid formed the roof, and concrete-covered Brazilian
brick painted in a Caribbean pastel green made up the walls. It conveyed a sense of cool tropical
hospitality remarkable in a torrid climate.
I felt at home immediately.
But
I had not come all this way just to admire a house. The star of the day, of course, was Baby
Lydia, and I had the honor of meeting her inside. She looked every inch a South American—all
twenty inches of her—with her fair skin, blue eyes, and light brown hair. A little while later, this brown hair all fell
out and was replaced by bright blond hair, which further advertised her
maternal Germanic-Celtic heritage. In the Brazilian state of Bahia, this little
girl stood out in the crowd!
For
the next week Miss Patty and I helped our daughter with her daughter, and with
keeping house—the cooking, the cleaning, the shopping, etc. One afternoon, in a further expression of
Brazilian hospitality, Renato’s parents hosted a large family feast at their
house. It was a wonderful week that
passed by much too quickly, a week with long hours, many busy times, and several
quiet times for contemplation as well.
Everything I did to help out with the new baby I had done previously
with my own children. I thought of this
often, especially as it had involved Miss Karen. It felt like she herself had been born only
about six months ago, and here she was, still my little baby girl, but with a little
baby girl of her own! How did this
happen so quickly? I remembered the many
times that I had fed her, diapered her, dressed her, rocked her to sleep, read
stories to her, taken her for walks, taken her to the pediatrician, and so on. Now she was doing all this and more
with her own little girl, Baby Lydia Elizabeth.
The cycle of life was demonstrating itself. I was moving up the scale to grandparenthood,
in the second of now four living generations in our family.
Baby
Lydia spent many hours sitting on my lap, and as I held her and gazed upon her,
many thoughts crossed my mind. A
perfectly innocent and beautiful child of God, she had come into this life to
be with us. She had come down from
Heaven—descendit de caelis[1]—and
had the look of divinity itself on her face.
“Every child is a gift from God,” as Mother Teresa had so often said,
and Baby Lydia seemed to be an exceptionally precious gift. We, her family, bore a serious moral
obligation to treat her well, provide for her properly, protect her from harm,
and give her every advantage to succeed in her new life. All of us would share this responsibility. As her parents, however, Miss Karen and
Renato would bear the bulk of the responsibility, and thus they would have the
most important jobs in the family.
Baby
Lydia got off to a good start in this regard, surrounded by parents and
grandparents who loved her and cared about her. Her paternal grandparents, Adilson and Eunadia,
lived within walking distance in the same neighborhood, and they came to see
her frequently. Also, her three
uncles—Miss Karen’s bodyguards when they were younger—now styled themselves
“Lydia’s Army.” Her great-grandparents, now
in their 90s and too infirm to travel, had sent their love with us. They would later admire their new baby via
Skype and Face Time and other technological wizardry that they appreciate but
don’t understand. And my mother would
again ask her famous rhetorical question, “How can anyone look at a newborn
baby and not believe in God?”
Baby
Lydia came to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in downtown
Alagoinhas with her family on Sunday morning.
She wore the now somewhat off-white christening gown that Miss Karen and
her three brothers and my brother and I had worn many years ago. This garment thus dated to 1949. It had been selected and purchased by Baby
Lydia’s great-great-grandparents in New Jersey, my mother’s parents, Robert
Burns and Julia Murphy. I’m certain that
they and many other ancestors and relatives were watching approvingly from
their celestial vantage point as Baby Lydia received her blessing and was
accepted into the Christian flock.
The
church services, of which the christening was a part, were conducted in
Portuguese, a language that I unfortunately do not understand. My mind wandered, then, first to the Latin of
Saint Jerome—Parvulus enim natus est
nobis, filius datus est nobis[2]—and
then with some literary license to the English of King James:
For unto us a child is
born, unto us a daughter is given:
and the government of
the family shall be upon her shoulder:
and her name shall be
called Wonderful, Counselor,
the mighty Goddess, the everlasting grandchild,
the Princess of the Family.[3]
My apologies to the Prophet Isaiah, but I thought these verses fit the circumstances perfectly!
After the Sunday service and amid much picture-taking, felicitous parishioners greeted the family and admired Baby Lydia. Every day, friends, neighbors, and relatives came to the house on Rua H to visit the new parents and pay homage to the new baby. Miss Karen and Miss Patty, both preoccupied with Baby Lydia, dispatched me to the front door to greet the guests. Blatantly deficient in Portuguese, I resorted to the Italian I had learned in my Rigel and Waccamaw days: “Buongiorno! Bienvenito! Vedi mia bellissima bambinetta!” It had previously worked like a charm in the airports of São Paulo and Salvador, and it did likewise on Rua H. I learned that providentially, of all the Romance languages, Portuguese and Italian bore the closest resemblance to one other.
After the Sunday service and amid much picture-taking, felicitous parishioners greeted the family and admired Baby Lydia. Every day, friends, neighbors, and relatives came to the house on Rua H to visit the new parents and pay homage to the new baby. Miss Karen and Miss Patty, both preoccupied with Baby Lydia, dispatched me to the front door to greet the guests. Blatantly deficient in Portuguese, I resorted to the Italian I had learned in my Rigel and Waccamaw days: “Buongiorno! Bienvenito! Vedi mia bellissima bambinetta!” It had previously worked like a charm in the airports of São Paulo and Salvador, and it did likewise on Rua H. I learned that providentially, of all the Romance languages, Portuguese and Italian bore the closest resemblance to one other.
When
the guests had gone and the house became quiet, I had my moments of communion and
contemplation with my new little baby girl.
With my visit so short and the distance from New Hampshire so long, I
gazed into Miss Lydia’s angelic face and wondered, “When will I ever see this
little girl again?” I could not answer
that, of course, but I hoped it would be sooner than next year. In the meantime, though, I could look at her
to my heart’s temporary content.
It
occurred to me that there was something truly ineffable about becoming a
grandfather and beholding my new granddaughter resting peacefully on my
lap. There was much to think about, but
little to say. It seemed best, then, to
simply maintain a reverent silence, to gaze in awe at this little girl, to
contemplate the designs of God, and to pray that his blessing will forever be
upon her.
With
great melancholy, Miss Patty and I took our leave of Baby Lydia late in the
morning of Monday, February 8. Adilson
and Eunadia drove us back to the airport in Salvador. Renato and his brother Alexandre met us there
after work. After a farewell luncheon
together, it was time for us to go. We
boarded a Tam Airlines A-321 for the flight to Rio de Janeiro, where we would
change aircraft for the overnight flight to New York.
The
same Brazilian hospitality that welcomed me on my arrival in Salvador now had
the last word as I left Salvador.
The
airplane took off to the northeast and then turned right and flew out over the
ocean. Turning right again, the plane
remained over the water and paralleled the coast to the southwest. This was the first I had seen the South
Atlantic since I had sailed on it aboard the General Vandenberg in 1979. It
was just as bright and blue in the sunshine now as it had been all those years
ago. After about an hour, the aircraft
turned again to fly overland, and the young cabin attendant noticed that we
were admiring the mountain range to the west.
This
young man’s name was Fernando. He had
blond hair, blue eyes, and light skin, and he spoke fluent Portuguese and
excellent English. He asked us in
English if we liked the view, and then the three of us fell into a lengthy
conversation. In the course of
describing Brazil to us, he mentioned that he was of German ancestry and that
his grandmother had come from N
At this announcement Miss Patty revealed that she, too, had been born in rnberg.N, and the conversation took on a new life. rnberg Switching to German now, Fernando and Miss
Patty spoke hurriedly and excitedly like old friends meeting after a long time
apart, and they exchanged voluminous information about their German
families. Fernando’s blue eyes sparkled
with enthusiasm as he spoke, and his complete fluency in Bavarian-accented
German became obvious. As good as his
English was, his German was even better.
Clearly, he had grown up with it.
He spoke German exactly as Miss Patty’s Oma had, and it sounded wonderful after all these years.
Eventually
Fernando had to get back to work, but he took every opportunity to return to us
and resume the conversation. When it was
time to land and then disembark, Fernando lavished attention on us and very
graciously assisted us off the airplane.
Fernando
did two things for us. First, he took
our minds off our sad departure from Miss Karen and Baby Lydia. Second, he reminded us of the supreme
importance of the family. We had
traveled thousands of miles to be with family.
Our daughter, our new granddaughter, our son-in-law, our son-in-law’s parents,
etc., were all family. If this were not
so, we would have had no reason at all to go to South America. In his lively conversation with Miss Patty
about their German families, Fernando demonstrated that the family’s importance
transcends cultures and nationalities and crosses oceans and continents.
Whether Brazilian, German, American, or a combination of all three, "the family is ordained of God."[4] It is “central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children,”[5] and is “the fundamental unit of society”[6] in every society. We all agreed on these points, and we shared “a sacred duty to rear [Baby Lydia] in love and righteousness.”[7] As Miss Patty and I returned home, we felt confident that Baby Lydia Elizabeth was in good hands with a good family.
[1]
From the Nicene Creed, referring to the birth of the Lord, This is usually translated as “He came down
from Heaven.” A more literal rendering
is “He (or she) descended from the heavens.”
[2]
Isaiah 9:6, Biblia Sacra Vulgata.
[3]
Based on Isaiah 9:6, King James translation.
[4]
“The Family: A Proclamation to the World,” Salt Lake City: The Church of Jesus
Christ of Latter-day Saints, General Relief Society Meeting, September 23,
1995.
[5]
Ibid.
[6]
Ibid.
[7]
Ibid.
Pops...wow. This is probably your best chapter yet! Then again, I am a bit biased toward the subject ;) Really though, I really enjoyed this one. Thanks for writing it! It is nice to be able to read and understand a lot of your thoughts and feelings regarding the most important person in the world! :D
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